As parents, we have hopes and dreams for our children.
We have this vision for them and want them to have a better life than we did.
Sometimes, within those hopes and dreams, we get so caught up in our own vision that we do not honor the individual they authentically are.
How to encourage your child’s individuality
As parents, we can get so wrapped up in what we see as their future that when it may not align with what our children desire, it sends us into a panic.
Maybe it is a career path. Maybe it is partner. Maybe it is where they live.
It is all rooted in fear. Not wanting them to suffer or struggle.
Fear of what others will think of them.
Fear of what others will think of you.
But that is not validating the authentic person that they are within.
Love is Unconditional
Maybe their decision disappoints you. Maybe it is not what you thought it would be.
But love is unconditional.
To honor your child’s individuality is to love them no matter what you envisioned for their life versus the reality of what actually is.
It is not when a certain milestone is achieved, or measured in how close you live, or how much money you make.
Love is love through the mistakes and the challenges.
Love is uplifting and encouraging them through the setbacks even though you would have done it differently.
Love is choosing to support your child over what other people may think.
Love is that child knowing that they can come to you when they are at their lowest and know that you will be there with open arms, not to say I told you so, but to be there as their shoulder to lean on.
Life is full of setbacks, challenges, but it is a journey.
It is a journey each individual has to travel through, live authentically and be unequivocally themselves.
It may not look like what you expected but loving them and supporting them through as they begin to discover themselves, is the greatest give you can give.
Unconditional acceptance. Unconditional encouragement. Unconditional love.
That is the greatest gift you an ever give to those you love the most.
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